What Should be in a Kid’s Easter basket?
On Sunday social media was flooded with images of kids and their Easter baskets and surprises. A quick look at the comments and emojis showed a whirlwind of judgment about what was right to give a child on Easter.
Browsing my newsfeed, I saw images with a vast array of baskets and gifts. In one image, a friend bragged “Not that parent. Just chocolate and a book is all my kids need.” Another friend boasted, “ Sorry not sorry! #spoiled” captioning a water table, two Easter baskets, a bike, a pool, a ball pit, a slide, and a beach play set (all for one child). By simple observation of the image captions, it was clear that parents felt the need to defend their images and how their Easter surprises were right. And still today, two days later, I’m seeing judgmental comments on Easter posts.
Why do we feel the need to defend what we do for our own children? I’ll tell you why—the judgment. Parents are so busy judging other parents and defending their own parenting. Parents are sucked into this ideal that they have to be ultra-minimalist for holidays or go way overboard. Really though, who is to judge? Do you really care what your friend or neighbor or relative or a stranger gets their child for the holidays? If so, you need to check your priorities.
I am by no means a perfect parent, but I know that what I do for my children has nothing to do with what anyone else does for theirs. I can guarantee my children (with great, full Easter baskets) were thrilled and spoiled without any actual gifts; pictures showed that the minimalist friend’s children were stoked for their large chocolate bunnies and new books; the over-board friend’s child was definitely stunned by an Easter as big as Christmas. All of us had different styles for surprising our children, but our children ultimately ended up happy.
Perhaps, we should leave the judgment at the door, enjoy the time with our children and be excited for others rather than judging them for what they did or didn’t do. Because let me tell you something—your way is no more right than anyone else’s way. Be you and celebrate your own right way.